Empathy is feeling what another person feels, from the inside. Your friend describes the moment the phone rang and your own stomach drops — that is empathy, not politeness.
Keep it apart from sympathy. Sympathy is feeling for someone, sorry from a safe distance; empathy is feeling with them, standing where they are standing. The verb is empathize (or empathise) and it takes WITH: you empathize with someone, never empathize someone. Both adjectives are in use, empathetic and empathic. You will meet the word most in talk about nursing, teaching, parenting and design, where it means the deliberate work of imagining another person's experience rather than a feeling that simply arrives.
1nounempathyThe ability to feel and understand what another person is feeling, as if from inside their experience.
“Good nurses need empathy as much as skill.”
synonyms: fellow feeling, understanding
empathy is an emotional ability.
Empathy is barely a century old. The psychologist Edward Bradford Titchener coined it in 1909 to translate German Einfühlung, reaching for Ancient Greek ἐμπάθεια — ἐν, 'in', plus πάθος, 'feeling'. The strange part is what became of the Greek word itself: modern εμπάθεια means close to the opposite, strong ill feeling and prejudice against someone.
German
Einfühlung
Ancient Greek
ἐμπάθεια
English, today
empathy
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A twentieth-century borrowing from Ancient Greek ἐμπάθεια literally “passion” (formed from ἐν (“in, at”) + πάθος (“feeling”)), equivalent to em- + -pathy, coined by Edward Bradford Titchener in 1909 to translate German Einfühlung. The modern word in Greek εμπάθεια has an opposite meaning denoting strong negative feelings and prejudice against someone.
Etymology from Wiktionary, CC BY-SA