Hurtful means causing emotional pain. A hurtful remark, that was hurtful, hurtful things.
It is about words and actions rather than injuries, and it belongs to the vocabulary of relationships and complaints: that was a hurtful thing to say. It is milder in sound than cruel and can be a serious charge nonetheless. Note that hurtful describes the effect and not the intention, which is why a hurtful remark may have been thoughtless. Note hurt, hurtfully.
1adjectivehurtfulCausing emotional pain.
“Her hurtful comments about his weight made him cry.”
synonyms: wounding, unkind
hurtful is a quality of causing pain.
Hurt plus -ful. Hurt came from Old French hurter, to strike or collide, and the sense of emotional pain grew from the physical one.
Frankish
*hūrt — a battering ram
fro-nor
hurter
Middle English
hurten
English
hurt
English, today
hurtful
Built from
From hurt + ful. hurt comes from Middle English hurten, hirten, hertan (“to injure, scathe, knock together”), from fro-nor hurter "to ram into, strike, collide with"; > Modern French heurter, perhaps from Frankish hūrt (“a battering ram”), cognate with Welsh hwrdd (“ram”) and kw hordh (“ram”). Compare Proto-Germanic hrūtaną, hreutaną (“to fall, beat”), from Proto-Indo-European krew- (“to fall, beat, smash, strike, break”); however, the earliest instances of the verb in Middle English are as old as those found in Old French, which leads to the possibility that the Middle English word may instead be a reflex of an unrecorded Old English hyrtan, which later merged with the Old French verb. Germanic cognates include Dutch horten (“to push against, strike”), Middle Low German hurten (“to run at, collide with”), Middle High German hurten (“to push, bump, attack, storm, invade”), Old Norse hrútr (“battering ram”). Alternate etymology traces fro-nor hurter rather to Old Norse hrútr (“ram (male sheep)”), lengthened-grade variant of hjǫrtr (“stag”), from Proto-Germanic herutuz, herutaz (“hart, male deer”), which would relate it to English hart (“male deer”). See hart.
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